Our first task is to understand
You don't need to arrive with a diagnosis, a perfectly defined goal or a clear explanation of what is happening.
Therapy with me is collaborative. I will listen carefully, ask questions and help you notice patterns that can be difficult to see when you are living inside them. We may explore what is happening now, your relationships, past experiences, and the ways you have learned to understand and cope with what has happened to you.
I won't assume that everything needs to be changed. Therapy may be about change, but it can also be about understanding, acceptance, grieving, or finding different ways to relate to yourself and to others.
Sometimes it means discovering that something you thought was a personal failing makes much more sense in context.
There is no single map that works for everyone.
We will work together to find yours.
You don't need to be good at therapy
You don't need to know what to say, arrive with a list of goals, or be able to explain everything you feel. Silence, uncertainty, contradiction and not knowing are all allowed in the room.
What I do ask is that you stay with the process as far as you are able. Therapy can be uncomfortable, and sometimes that discomfort is part of the work rather than a sign that something has gone wrong.
But uncomfortable and unhelpful are not the same thing. If I misunderstand you, if something doesn't feel right, or if what we are doing isn't helping, I want us to be able to talk about it openly. And stopping is always allowed.
I ask you to bring curiosity and honesty, as far as you are able. I will bring my training, experience, attention and willingness to think carefully with you.
I ask you to bring your experience of being you.
Neither of us needs to have all the answers when we begin.
You are not a problem to be solved
And therapy should not feel like talking to a very expensive silence.
Many people come to therapy after spending years trying to become easier for others to deal with. Less sensitive. Less anxious. Less intense. Less different. Some have become so good at carrying on, looking after everyone else and keeping everything running that nobody can see how much it is costing them.
Something similar can happen in families. There may be love, concern and a genuine desire to help, but also the same arguments, the same misunderstandings and that uncomfortable feeling that everyone is trying, yet nothing is really changing.
I do not begin by asking, “What is wrong with you?”
I want to understand what has happened, what you are carrying and what begins to make sense when we look at the whole story.
My approach to therapy is not passive. I will listen carefully, but I will also ask questions, notice patterns, share what I see and help you connect things that may have seemed separate for a long time. At times, I may challenge you, with care and honesty. At others, we may discover that the thing you have spent so long trying to fix was never the real problem.
Together, we can explore how your experiences, relationships and the expectations placed upon you have shaped the way you cope, protect yourself and relate to others. From there, we can begin to distinguish what can change, what needs support and what was never yours to carry in the first place.
You do not need to become a better version of somebody else.
Nor do you need to arrive with the right words.
We can begin with the ones you have.
Terapia en español en Irlanda
Soy de Málaga y vivo y trabajo en Irlanda.
Ofrezco psicoterapia en español para personas, parejas y familias, online, desde cualquier punto de Irlanda.
Hacer terapia en tu idioma no es un detalle menor.
Hay cosas que solo sabes nombrar en la lengua en la que las viviste. En un segundo idioma podemos ser perfectamente competentes y, aun así, descubrir que algunas experiencias salen más ordenadas, más pequeñas o simplemente más lejos de lo que realmente sentimos.
Y para quienes vivimos fuera de nuestro país, hay experiencias difíciles de separar de la migración, la pertenencia, la identidad y esa sensación peculiar de estar vinculados a dos lugares sin estar completamente en ninguno.
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